Self Awareness Skills: Reflective Work

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Reflective work takes self awareness skills. A presuppositon of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) is people do the best they can with the resources they have.  What does that mean?  It is both pragmatic and philosophical. If you lack basic infrastructure, you do the best you can with what you have.  When physical/material resources are lacking, we have to make do and there are consequences.  There are always consequences, some unintended.   In business, when budgets are limited and people find themselves having to spend more hours with less resources, it takes it toll and yet we do the best we can.  (Whether it is sustainable is a whole other question).   Similarly, in the psychological and spiritual realms, we find ourselves doing the best we can with the resources we have.  How this differs from the physical realm is that we have within ourselves the capacity to guide what goes on in our psychological and spiritual realms.

Doing the best you can with the resources you have is an invitation to connect with your reflective self. 

Doing the Best You Can

It is an invitation to think about the quality and the content of your thinking.  Have you ever kicked yourself or felt anger or annoyance at yourself because of something you did or thought that you knew was not worthy of yourself.  After the event, you judged yourself very harshly and felt remorse.  That is usually an unpleasant experience.

You have the capacity to turn that unpleasant experience about your own thinking and behavior into a pleasing experience.  How?  Acknowledge that you exercised your reflective self to know the difference.   And make that your reflective best self.  Actions, conversations, thoughts that are judging, critical, non-valuing of self and others are not helpful.  If you see leaders in your organizations and your colleagues as doing the best they can with the resources they have, it's a more helpful way seeing what's going on through a valuing lens.  You tap into your own inner resources of love and peace and truth and power to see a situation for what it is, not what your inner judge expects it to be.   When we become more conscious and do the reflective work, we clean our lens and see more clearly that we are all in the same  boat, doing the best we can with the resources we have. These include the inner resources of compassion, forgiveness and respect.